Does your husband really care if you can fit into skinny jeans?

The naked truth

After 11 years of being a full-fledged member of this institution we call marriage, I can say with total and complete certainty that at this point I'm fairly convinced my husband could care less about whether or not I can fit into a pair of skinny jeans. In fact, 95 percent of the time, if I walked around draped in a potato sack, it wouldn't illicit much of a reaction from him. As I write this, I'm not quite sure whether the fact that the shape of my body has no bearing on him is actually a good thing. Is it that he loves every last inch of me or it that he's just quietly resigned himself to living with a wife who has no interest in doing stomach crunches?

Of course, when we initially met, as we rollerbladed in NYC’s Central Park, me in my Daisy Dukes - hair perfectly coiffed and my face decked in full-on eyeshadow and shimmery lip gloss, he told me shortly thereafter that although he was enamored with my skill on blades, my jean shorts, may have fueled his lustful gaze.

But let’s slow down here a second and put things into perspective. During our initial courtship I was the polar opposite of the woman I am today. I was a carefree, unattached 20-something, whose biggest concern was paying my rent and feeding my MAC cosmetics addiction. And that whole "fitting into Daisy Dukes thing," well back in those days, being that the bulk of my paychecks went to my exorbitant Manhattan rent, I subsisted solely on Diet coke and takeout Chinese egg drop soup.

Fast forward 11 years, two kids, the latter of which was a C-section, which has left me with a permanent kangaroo pouch, and an affinity for shoveling in my kids’ leftover meals, (heck, how can I possibly toss half-eaten chicken breasts and Kraft macaroni and cheese when there are kids starving in other parts of the world?!), I don’t think I could possibly manage to fit one leg into an entire pair of skinny jeans.

Of course I wasn’t always the hausfrau I’ve recently morphed into. After our first child was born, I was incredibly cognizant of every morsel I consumed -- determined to keep my thighs as cellulite-free as I could. I was committed to getting into that coveted tight pair of jeans at all costs and even attempted a few fad diets in order to do so… They didn’t work. But then I had my second child, and the responsibilities of motherhood, coupled with the usual round-up of deadlines, homework, play dates and, yes, one too many pieces of butter cream frosted cake on the kids’ birthday party circuit, pushed getting into a pair of tight jeans slightly lower on my list of priorities.

Do I care? Only on the rare occasion that my husband and I both happened to be watching TV together (usually we retreat to our respective places in the house -- where I can get my fix of Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker and he whatever sport is being televised -- although I think he’d draw the line at curling). Lo and behold we were front and center for the Victoria Secret Fashion show, where models vamped it up in barley-there bras and panties. My initial reaction was to grab the remote and change the channel, but then I waited to see what my husband’s reaction would be to these perfect specimens of the female persuasion who could give any of us moms a run for our money.

I’m not going to lie -- I saw his eyes widen a bit as a bronzed, raven-haired, Brazilian “Angel” swept across the stage, spilling out of a barely-there push up bra. Oh, did I mention that “his look” is dark-skin and I’m just about the pastiest white girl on this planet who needs to slap on SPF 50 when just the tiniest bit of sun pokes through the clouds? But I digress... For a moment, my heart sank as I looked down at my attire: A pair of my grandma’s finest flannel pajamas and my hair in a bun.

So I asked him point blank, “Do you wish I looked like that,” a question no husband would dare answer with the statement, “Yes, actually you could stand to lose about 20 pounds.” He said, and I quote, “Honey, you are still as beautiful and sexy to me as that first day we met when you went rollerblading in your shorts and eyeshadow.” OK, so now I know he’s lying, or at the very least stretching the truth, but I’ll take it.

So does your husband really care if you can fit into skinny jeans? Probably not. And that is why God invented elastic.

7 Traits of irresistible women

His idea of sexy

We sat down with a group of five men to find out what they find irresistible in women. Here's the list of traits that these men (and probably all men) find to be appealing in the opposite sex. "There are certain things I look for when I look for a girlfriend," says Brandon. "If she embodies these traits, she'll only be hotter to me."

Confidence

Purnell, a single male who’s currently on a girl hiatus, thinks that a girl who knows who she is and likes who she is, is hot. He doesn’t want to keep on reassuring his future girlfriend. She already has to be put together inside and out, and “that’s irresistible,” he adds.

Intelligence

“She has to be able to hold a stimulating conversation with me,” says Jeremy, a 30-year-old single man. “I’m really attracted to girls who can hold her own and might even teach me a thing or two.” The lawyer believes a “hot” girl who’s below him intellectually is only fun for one casual date, but it’s not ideal long-term.

Great sense of humor

When asked what he finds to be irresistible, Brandon, a self-proclaimed superficial single, surprised us. “I know my eye is always on the lookout for a pretty face, but if a girl can make me laugh, even if she’s not hot, I’d still find her to be girlfriend material,” he explains. “A good sense of humor is irresistible because it’s so pleasant to be around and shows she has a brain and confidence” (traits that also made this list).

Nice smile

“If she has messed up teeth, it’s disgusting -- enough said,” says Brandon, who’s single and can’t help being picky. “A girl with straight, white teeth, to me, is irresistible. It means she knows how to take care of herself.”

Driven

Some guys might want to be with a girl who plans to stay home with the kids when they’re married, but for Purnell, a woman who’s driven is irresistible. He has always dated girls with careers or grand ambitions. He finds a girl’s motivation and work ethic to be sexier than her appearance (though he believes someone’s looks counts a little bit).

Adventurous

Eric, a 35-year-old hairstylist, is in love with the woman he’s dating. Their first date: sky diving. “It was her idea, not mine,” he explains. “I’ve never done it before, but she has. I said, what the heck, and it was an amazing bonding experience.” Besides the unique first date, Eric said he found his now girlfriend irresistible because of her zest for life. “The fact that she does crazy things and can be spontaneous is so hot to me,” he adds.

Easy-going

“No one likes a girl who’s too intense and a bit of a handful,” says Vincent, the man I’m currently dating. “A girl who’s easy -- and not in the sexual sense -- is a catch. So many girls can be dramafied and analyze every little thing.” The 29-year-old says he’s been on so many dates with girls who over-think and that’s not only stressful for him, but is a total deal-breaker.

J-Lo booty

No wonder Jennifer Lopez has had the opportunity to be involved with so many great men. From Chris Judd to Ben Affleck, and now being married to Marc Anthony, you can’t deny her sex appeal. Many say it’s her confidence, which also made this list; others will assume her bum has a little bit to do with it, too. “I like a girl with curves,” says Brandon, who’s still single and is anxiously awaiting his J-Lo. “I know a lot of girls go on diets and try to slim down, but being too slim is not sexy -- at least not to me.”

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Top 100 things that attract women to men

1.Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes. Eyes provide an insight on the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature according to various women’s magazines.
2.A confident attitude towards life. Confidence indicates that you are successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Women will trust you with themselves
3.Physical height. Height provides a sense of security and comfort which is very attractive to women. Being taller is also a dominant trait which is attractive. Ultimately, if you are short but can provide a feeling of security and comfort, this will be equivalent to height.
The best guide to creating attraction regardless of height is Double Your Dating.
4.Physical strength, muscles. Being muscular provides a sense of excitement and security in women. It also alludes to dominance which will seduce most women.
5.Being funny. Laughter makes people feel more comfortable and happy. Also, when people are laughing at your jokes, you immediately gain social status which is attractive. If you can make her laugh, you’re half way there. Read how to make a girl smile.
6.Being witty. This is very attractive as it alludes to being smart, and intelligence is attractive to women. If you are dating then wit will be a big part of your evening.
7.Being wealthy.Wealth indicates power, security, comfort and even excitement. This is very attractive to women whom crave all these feelings.
8.Being playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with, consequently triggering feelings of attraction in women.
9.Being touchy. Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of attraction. Naturally touchy people have a lot more sex than people whom refrain from human contact. This is important when you flirt with a girl.
10.Bravery. Being brave, alert in emergency situations is very attractive and indicates that you will be able to protect her from danger.
11.Being excited about life. The energy that people emit when they are excited about living is contagious and very attractive.
12.Being unavailable. People want what they can’t get. Being hard ( but not impossible! ) to get is attractive.
13.A cocky smile is attractive. Cocky smiles, demonstrated in movies such as James Bond and Top Gun triggers feelings of confidence and dominance which is extremely arousing. Read up on how to pick up girls for more information.
14.Genuine smiles in general are attractive. As long as they are a reaction to something that occurred and not because you are being polite or awkward.
15.Being concentrated on a task is attractive to women. If a woman can watch you while you are completely involved in a task, then she is likely to be attracted to you. Examples of this can be her watching you paint, play an instrument, anything you do well that requires full absolute concentration on your part.
16.Playing an instrument is attractive to women. Wonder why the rock stars get the girls… there are many reasons but those whom play music are automatically ranked more attractive than those who don’t.
17.Being famous.If you’re famous, then by definition a lot of people know you. If a lot of people know you, you are therefore important. Being important is very attractive to women.
18.Not caring. A care free attitude is liberating and very attractive.
19.Being well dressed. Wearing nice clothes demonstrate social status; accentuate your physical features and shows that you take care of yourself.
20.Unique accessories that match our personality. In our society, accessories that stand out provoke curiosity, confidence and will attract women. “What’s that necklace you are wearing”, says the girl at the bar. That is one of the dating tips for how to attract women.
21.Shoes that are in style. The first thing that most girls notice in guys is what kind of shoes they are wearing. Shoes speak more about you than all clothes. You can be wearing a diaper on your head, jeans from the 80’s… but if you’re wearing brand new shoes that are in style, girls will automatically see you as attractive. If you don’t have the shoes… get them.
22.Well fitting shirts. Baggy shirts are out! Shirts should complement your body and show off your features. Now I’m not talking about spandex, but regular well fitting shirts. You know why suits look good? Because they are tailored to fit you perfectly. This is attractive to women.
23.A deep, commanding voice. Your voice says a lot about you, literally. The next time you strike up a chat with a woman, don’t sound squeaky.
24.Body posture. Within 1 second, just from how you stand, women will judge you as attractive or not. Good body posture indicates that you are a healthy mate and is very attractive to women. Lean back.
25.Human smell. Sweat, at a very basic level, is very attractive to women. It triggers feeling of arousal in women. However, don’t go too far and stink. That’s repelling.
26.Some light, musky cologne. These smells will mimic the natural smell that males produce and used lightly, will arouse some females.
27.Leadership. Being a leader is very attractive to women, it demonstrates social status and importance. Make decisions, lead the pack.
28.Being dominant. Women are naturally submissive, and men should be naturally dominant. Unfortunately with all our yoga classes and hormonal milk, this has changed in the past century.
29.Being dangerous. Danger is hot, exciting, energizing and can be very addictive. Women love the bad boy.
30.Being intelligent. Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an impressive line of studies or career is very attractive.
31.Being good with animals. Being good with living things indicates that you will be a good mate, capable of protecting and caring for any offspring you could potentially have. This is very attractive.
32.Being good with kids. Same as above.
33.Being genuinely interested in her. People love people whom are interested in them. If you genuinely want to know what makes her tick, this will be attractive.
34.Being the best, in a group of men. If you are the best out of the competing men, then out of that group, you will be the most attractive to women.
35.Being disciplined. People want to be surrounded by competent individuals. If you are able to control yourself when she can’t, she will see you as having a lot of willpower. This demonstrates that you are in control of your life.
36.Not taking life too seriously. Having the gift to be able to laugh at life and embrace it as an enjoyable experience. You don’t have to think about marriage every time you talk to a girl.
37.Being positive. Positive people are attractive. If you can show her the sunny side of things, she will thank you for it.
38.Being a little selfish. Being slightly selfish indicates that you care a lot about yourself and your well being. This relates to confidence and importance which are attractive. Don’t be a martyr.
39.Being generous. The complete opposite of being selfish, being generous can be attractive as well because it demonstrates that you are not needy and that you are wealthy. Note! Being generous does NOT mean you should buy things for people so they like you… this is not attractive. A good example of being generous would be, if you’re with friends, you could purchase the pitcher of drinks. This subconsciously communicates that you are in charge, dominant and wealthy.
40.Spontaneity. Very attractive, alludes to excitement.
41.Good hair. Having nice, healthy and well groomed hair shows that you take care of yourself.
42.Trimmed nails. Women notice, if you take care of yourself, she’ll appreciate it.
43.A slight tan. These days, a tan indicates that you wealthy and physically healthy.
44.Relaxed attitude. Being relaxed shows a lot of confidence.
45.Being driven. If you know what you want in life, and you’re pursuing it, this is attractive.
46.Nice teeth. It is very important to have nice teeth, women think about it every time they consider kissing you.
47.Having nice possessions, such as a car, house or a boat. These indicate wealth, excitement and power, all of which are attractive.
48.A sense of adventure. If you’re curious about life, and are willing to take risks. You can lure her into your world and she’ll be happy to follow you past her limits.
49.Honesty. Being able to speak the truth is difficult and shows that you have accepted who you are as a person. It also shows that you don’t care what others think, which is very attractive.
50.Whispering in her ear. The sense of secrecy, mysteriousness and excitement that comes from a whisper is very attractive.
51.Being busy. If you are busy, then you are important, independent and have a life.
52.Being a man. Women love men who do manly things, stop doing yoga and go play a sport, hit the gym and get dirty.
53.Having a nice butt. A sexy fitness indicator, attainable through the gym.
54.Pre-selection. If other women want you, then there must be a reason. Having many people want you makes you attractive. You aren’t a guy who has time to look at personals.
55.Being genuine. Say what you mean and do what you say. This is hard, but attractive.
56.Physically picking her up. Ever heard of sweeping her off her feet? This is it.
57.Touching her hair. There is something about having your hair touched that is relaxing and arousing at the same time.
58.A nice face. Women love men with an attractive face. That’s what she’ll be kissing and you better believe it makes a difference.
59.Originality. Women crave excitement, originality provides that. Seduction is never the same and being original is an essential part of it.
60.Experience. Maturity can be very arousing; if you know what you’re doing she’ll appreciate it and you’ll get laid more often.
61.Speaking to her true self. If you can see past the walls that most people put and truly speak to the real person inside of them, you’ll be one of the few that understands them. This makes you very important.
62.Independence. People don’t like neediness, being independent shows that you are self sufficient and can take care of yourself.
63.Teasing her. Playfulness, excitement, she loves it.
64.Composure. If you can keep your cool under stressful situations, she’ll notice.
65.Being selective. If you are selective, then it implies that you aren’t needy and are valuable enough to want many people want you.
66.Being challenging. Playing hard to get is as true for women as it is for men. People want what they can’t have, and if they have to work for something, they’ll appreciate it much more.
67.Focus. If you know what you want, and are determined to get it, then that’s attractive.
68.Modesty. No one likes a show-off. Being modest is great, and attractive. There is nothing better than a girl finding out something good about you through a friend.
69.Muscular abs. An indicator of health.
70.Being natural. If you’re genuine about how you feel, without caring what others think, then that’s attractive. You want to know if people can handle the real you.
71.Charismatic. If your spoken words and gestures can warm up a room, she’ll notice and be warmed up as well. If she doesn’t, her matchmaking friend will tell her about you.
72.Sensual. Some people are frigid and cold. Some people are warm and very alert to their senses. If you are in tune with your body, you’ll likely be in tune with hers as well.
73.A man that loves to have fun. Everyone wants to be around a guy who enjoys himself, be that guy.
74.Goes against the rest of society. No one likes a follower. If you have a conviction about something, stick with it. Make up your own mind about things and people will respect you.
75.Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and is therefore very attractive.
76.Persistent. If you go after your goals, other will notice. This is very attractive as it shows will power that not many people have.
77.Being respected. If your entourage respects you, then she will as well.
78.Loyal. People do not want to get hurt, and will avoid you if aren’t loyal. It is better to remain single than to get into a relationship you don’t plan on staying in.
79.Romance. Spicing it up in a relationship is critical and attractive. Don’t always do the same thing because it will get boring really fast.
80.Drama. Ever wonder why women love soap opera’s? It is because they crave drama, gossip, secrets. It is exciting and attractive. If you have an eventful life, people will be attracted to it.
81.The way you move. If you have calm, controlled and relaxed gestures, then you will be seen as someone that is confident.
82.A mysterious grin. There’s something about a grin that arouses curiosity and intrigue.
83.Being extravagant. Sometimes going over the top is good, if you can let yourself go from time to time, people will notice.
84.Loving yourself. If you truly love yourself for who you are, then others will as well.
85.Being a teacher. Have you ever wondered why so many girls have crushes on their teachers? It is because being a teacher is a sign of power and knowledge, be a teacher.
86.Clean, clear skin. Physically, nice skin is a health indicator and women will naturally be attracted to healthy looking skin.
87.Being energetic. Have you ever heard the expression, “he was the life of the party” This is energy, its contagious and most people don’t have enough of it. It is very attractive.
88.Being passionate. Be in the moment and enjoy life every day. It’s not about the destination, but about the journey. You’ll find your true love along the way.
89.Quick mind. If you can think on your feet, and are quick to reply to her playful teases, you’ll be seen as smart and alert. A woman would rather be with a man that stimulates her intellectually rather than someone who is brain dead. It is much better to find something original to say on the spot rather than to use pick up lines.
90.Attentive to details. It’s the little things that matter, if you notice that she’s done something different with her hair when no one else does, she will appreciate and be attracted to that.
91.Convicted and has strong beliefs. Be opinionated about things. If you ask someone a question about a topic and they have something interested to say about it, that’s attractive. Be opinionated.
92.Being in tune with her. Being in tune with someone is one of the biggest factors in relationships. Have you ever felt chemistry? Have you ever felt like you were on the same wavelength? If you and your partner are similar (and you should!) this will come naturally and will be one of the most attractive traits. The same applies for meeting women during the day or night. If you’re picking up a girl in a club, then high energy is appropriate because your energy will be matching hers. If you arrive with high energy during the day and she is reading in the library, this will clash.
93.Being attentive to details in your life. Are you meticulous? Being attentive to the details in your life will mean that you will pay attention to the details in her life.
94.Being knowledgeable about various subjects. If you are versatile, then you’ll never be short of conversational topics. Being flexible and able to adapt to all kinds of situations is attractive. Go read some books.
95.Innocence. It’s no fun when you know everything, have tried everything and have been to the edge and back. A little bit of innocence is attractive because it makes you more human. There’s always something that you haven’t tried, let her know and invite you to try it with you. Asking for her advice is alright as well.
96.Challenging her. Forcing her to be on her toes, teasing her, is exciting and attractive.
97.Be a planner. If you are always organising events, you are automatically the leader that has a high social status and a lot of energy. This is very attractive; everyone wants to be invited to outings.
98.Being open. Tell her about your life, the real one. Cut the B.S. and you’ll stand out as someone who’s not trying to prove anything to anyone.
99.Being direct. Being direct is very powerful and attractive. People use indirect methods because they want to ‘feel things out’ and not get hurt. Being direct shows that you are confident, bold and not scared of rejection.
100.Be yourself, the good yourself. You shouldn’t try to pretend to be something that you aren’t. You should grow and continually improve, but remain genuine. Don’t hide your faults, everyone has them. The old saying,” be yourself” is very true and is ultimately what will attract the woman of your dreams.

Does it mean that you have to be all these things in order to attract beautiful women into your life? No way! The universe has a weird way of working and you’ll be attracted to the one you were meant to be with. She’ll love your faults, your weaknesses and your strengths. Have faith, believe in destiny and you shall meet your soul mate. You’ll know it when it happens.

5 Things guys hate to hear

We asked a group of men what they hate to hear from the ladies they're dating. From ex-talks to fat-questions, men agreed across the board on the things that women say that irk them.

“My Ex used to...”

Whether you’re a boy or a girl, straight or gay, this gets old. When it comes to the person you’re dating, they don’t need to hear about your exes. It’s one thing to mention one or two things, but don’t make it a habit of saying, “my ex used to...” “I ended things with a girl who was notorious for [this],” says Jeremy, a 30-year-old single man. “If he had nothing to do with me, why bring him up all the time? Your focus should be on me now.”

“Do I look fat?”

Or anything that solicits a similar reaction, for that matter. Ladies, don’t ask your man, “Do I look fat?” if you’re going to hate a particular answer. “My girlfriend asks me if she looks fat in almost everything she puts on before we go to a big party or something, and it always ends up starting a fight,” says Alex, who’s been with his girlfriend for two years now. “It’s not like I call her fat, but the question gets old after awhile, so when she asks, I just don’t answer anymore.” The silent treatment Alex gives his girlfriend infuriates her and they end up arguing before every big party or event they have to go to. “It’s not fun,” he says.

Fishing for compliments

“My mom, my sisters and my girlfriends used to all do this,” says Jim, who’s now happily married. “They’d knock themselves down or talk down their accomplishments. For awhile I didn’t understand what it was all about, then I realized they just want me to tell them how great they are.” Jim says this annoyed him more than anything -- he prefers a woman who’s not passive-aggressive and tells it like it is. “My wife is a straight shooter -- she tells me what she wants to hear, so there’s no fishing involved,” he adds. “It’s heaven.”

“Hi, brother”

As it turns out, gay or straight, this one bodes for everyone. Mike, a gay man, was in a car with three other gays and a straight man when we asked him “what guys hate to hear.” His committee of friends answered as a collective: “Guys hate to hear ‘you’re like a brother to me.’ It means [you’re not getting any] booty,” they say. “If you’re on ‘brother status,’ it’s time to move on.” So ladies, if you really like the guy you’re dating, don’t compare or liken him to your brother. That’s relationship suicide in guy world -- gay or straight.
Silence and secrets

For Purnell, who’s currently on a girl hiatus, it’s not so much about what girls say. It’s about what they’ve left out. “It's usually what you don't hear that ends up complicating things, right?” Purnell points out. “Once I dated a girl who, after we stopped dating, revealed that she had been on anti-depressants throughout our short-lived relationship.” For Purnell, this information would’ve been significant and useful when they were dating. “The patterns I noticed -- lethargy, passivity -- that eventually turned me off may have been induced by [medication] and may not have reflected her true character,” he realizes. “I'll never know.”

When to listen to your friends

When it comes to you and your man, your friends will either think you're a perfect match or a match made in hell. Do they say things like, 'He's not right for you' or 'You're different around him'? They could have your best interests at heart -- or they could just be jealous. Here's when you should listen to your sistahs' gripes about your significant other and when you should tell them to back off.
"Some key signs that girlfriends should look out for is if they see your boyfriend talk negatively about you to them behind your back, if he checks out other women blatantly in front of them, or is flirtatious and even comes on to a friend," says love, dating and relationship expert Janice D. Bennett, Ph.D.

You should also listen to what your friends say about your man when:

1. You can't relax and be yourself

If you're always quiet around him when you're usually a motor mouth or if you skip the raunchy jokes so as not to offend him, there may be a problem.

2. You quit your yoga class

If your friends point out that you've missed the last month of workout classes or book club meetings, heed their concern. It could mean you are becoming too wrapped up in your BF's world. A good partner will encourage you to pursue your own hobbies and interests.

3. You no longer have an opinion on politics

…Or the war in Iraq, abortion, religion, etc. If you stifle your views to appease his, there's something strange going down.

4. he has become your only social life

You say you live your "own lives," but the truth is you seem happier and more carefree when you're with just your friends instead of your man.
Next: When to tell your BFFs to back off...
When it comes to you and your man, your friends will either think you're a perfect match or a match made in hell. Do they say things like, 'He's not right for you' or 'You're different around him'? They could have your best interests at heart -- or they could just be jealous. Here's when you should listen to your sistahs' gripes about your significant other and when you should tell them to back off.

When to fight back

"By the time someone is in their late 20s to early 30s, they should know which friends they can go to for specific kinds of help… So, I think that it's important to remember the source of the advice in order to know whose advice should be 'taken with a grain of salt,' vs. the person who is so loving and loyal that her advice and opinions are not just designed for her benefit," Dr. Bennett said.

Tell your pals thanks, but no thanks, when:

1. You feel comfortable and supported

He tells gross fart jokes -- and so do you. Your friends might find it nasty, but if you share a penchant for this type of humor, it's a sign you're well matched.

2. They're single and bitter

Is she saying she never sees you and ask for one-on-one time, even after you just went to the mall with her last weekend? Your friend might be lonely or jealous because she wants what you have.

3. They refuse to meet your partner

You can't pass judgment on someone you've never met. If your friend has nothing good to say when you relay stories about your guy, invite her to dinner with the two of you, so she can see what he's really like.

4. They don't care about your needs and desires

We've all had friends or family members who want us to marry a certain type (usually tall dark and handsome, with a law or medical degree and a time share in the Caribbean). If your man doesn't fit their mold, they might gripe about how "you can do better." The bottom line: if he supports you, makes you feel good, challenges you in the right ways and lets you be yourself, tell your loved ones that you're happy and they should be happy for you.

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Once a liar always a liar?

Will a Liar Ever Change?

Being lied to by someone you love and felt you could trust is very painful and frustrating. You love your partner, so you find yourself forgiving his/her lies the first time, perhaps the second and third time as well, before you realize you are just involved with a liar. However, because you feel strongly for this person, it is not easy for you to break away, even though you know that is probably what is best for you. You hang on, with hope that things will change and he will not lie to you anymore. You justify staying with him by telling yourself that he is a good person and deep down you know he loves you- and that your relationship is wonderful and perfect- except when he lies.

What you need to ask yourself when this happens is: Do you consider a wonderful relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone, it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical questions. You often will make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better about staying with someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as you would like to believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies- little ones and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no matter the size or reason for the lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little things that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that he/she will lie to you about bigger things that will really matter and damage the relationship.

What you need to ask yourself when this happens is: Do you consider a wonderful relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone, it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical questions. You often will make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better about staying with someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as you would like to believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies- little ones and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no matter the size or reason for the lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little things that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that he/she will lie to you about bigger things that will really matter and damage the relationship.

How to say I Love You in 100 Languages

English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo baashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarh ar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuththene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Maltese - Inhobbok
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te ubesk
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gradh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing 'I Love You')
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu'bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - Mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe