What men look for in women is not always easily identifiable and will differ from one man to another. While some men prefer statuesque blondes with interests in healthy lifestyles, others lean towards studious, dark haired women who are charitable and environmentally consious. Other men just simply want a warm body and someone who listens.
Men are not always easy to understand. We spend more time protecting our egos than allowing ourselves to be honest about what we really want in a relationship. Men visit strip clubs to get aroused, but would never want the woman in our lives taking clothes off for other men. We would never admit to reading relationship manuals, but few of us know how to get them right. What's even worse is that we take advice from friends, who also fail terribly at their relationship.
Deep inside, we want the same things most women want. To love, and be loved by the one person who makes our hearts flutter out of control. We want to establish happy, healthy lives and grow old with that special someone. The woman who can walk that delicate balance of allowing us to keep our egos intact while stimulating us emotionally, intellectually, and sexually will have us eating out of the palms of their hands. Here are some of the things that men really look for in a woman.
Initial Attraction
Most men initially view a woman as a potential sex partner. We are attracted to both her femininity and her sensuality. We want a woman who exudes both, without being too much of either. For many men, seeing a woman wearing too little is way too much, even though it'll attract our attention. If a woman appears too easy, our subconscious leads us to believe that she'll be easy for the next guy, too. Men like to have something left to the imagination. We may fantasize about bad girls, but we wouldn't want to bring one home to meet the family.
Dating
Men (like most women) like to be seduced, but the seduction must be subtle. We still like to think that we're in charge. We like to feel as though we're calling the shots, even when we have no clue as to what shots to call. In other words, after we stretch our creative capabilities with the most awe inspiring night imaginable, we'll need help. It's OK to drop hints, then allow us to pretend that it was our idea in the first place. Men want a woman who can let us be strong, even after she's aware of our weaknesses. Someone to fill the void of our frailties, making us stronger than we could be alone. You must understand though,that we'd never admit to not being able to handle anything that comes up. It's just in our psychological makeup.
Men prefer women who will take them into consideration. Someone who understands that he wanted to give you her a dozen roses, but his budget could only afford six. The shopping trip to New York and a night on Broadway may be expected from an attorney who just made partner, but it's out of the question for a guy working at the mall. Furthermore, it's embarrassing to say that we can't afford it.
Commitment
Men are afraid of commitment. We'll go into battle to fight bravely for our country, hunt big game on safari, but the thought of being with one woman for the rest of our lives makes us as timid as a rabbit. When we do commit, we're never sure that we can live up to it, even though we have every intention to.
We make commitments because we've met someone who we really like, and we want to take them off the market before she gets away. It's sort of like a woman finding a dress on sale, and buys it only because it may not be there next week. A hot commodity does not stay on the market very long. We think we are ready to settle down, but we leave the possibility open that someone else may come along. Ultimately, we like having options.
When we do commit, we want a woman who is much more emotionally and psychologically stable than we are. We like to think that she'll remain faithful, put up with our leaving the toilet seat up and other flaws, wake up stunning in the morning, and never gain weight. We want a woman who never complains, allows us to watch the game without interrupting, cooks every day after getting home from work, and provides us with unequaled passion.
In reality, the bottom line is that real men appreciate real women. Someone strong, but she can allow us to lead. Someone intelligent, but still willing to grow. Someone who understands our vision, and is willing to help direct us toward it. Someone sensual, but devoted only to us.
We want a woman who tries her best, but can ask for help if she needs it. A woman who contributes to the relationship, not just looks for what she can get out of it. She can go out with her friends, but prefers being with her man. And we want a woman who doesn't get caught up in the drama of other people's lives. Instead, she leaves a positive impression wherever she goes.
